Over at a thought provoking blog "In Him We Live and Move and Have Our Being," we find some wonderful reflections on marriage all this past week. However the capstone of these posts came down the pike today. Take a look and a listen at this:
In marriage we all find out each other's flaws very quickly and part of marriage that I think a lot of people don't understand is that we need to do our best to blow off the behaviors or tendencies or quirks that someone has that really aren't that big of a deal. Somehow my wife overlooks my morning grumpiness and the fact that I'm often a slob who leaves clothes where I'm not supposed to. I know I snore sometimes and I can't count the number of times my wife has "kneed" me in the back in the middle of the night, or pulled off the covers. She once fell asleep mid-sentence late at night when I was talking to her and she was exhausted and I was troubled by something.
But God do I love her. And her me.
We've both worked hard on our more rougher edges and have really come to understand what it means to work at relationship--and it always has paid off great dividends for both of us and our relationship.
It seems to me that this is what we call commitment and it is a reflection of how God also stands by us no matter what we might do. That all we need to do is utter those two simple words "I'm sorry" and the slate is always wiped clean. And God does this perfectly, unlike me who always tends to keep just a slight bit of resentment lingering--something I'm trying to work on that is challenging and never easy.
But fortunately for me, I have a wonderful woman by my side, who often teaches me much about unconditional love.
May you find someone as "wonderfully imperfect" as I have. And may your wonderful imperfections be tolerated and loved by someone who loves you.
Homily for April 23
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